Managing arguments at home

Family dynamics can be relaxing and stressful at the same time. Sometimes after a tedious day at school or work, family time is just maybe everything you need to relax, or can even get you angrier or more tired. Some bad blood is bound to arise in close-knit groups, but that just means everyone collectively should learn how to sort out these problems. 

1. Communication is key.

All relationships are built on two things, trust and communication. Successful communication is the key to solving disputes, no matter if they are large or small. When communicating you must keep in mind two things, whether you are a parent or a child it is extremely important to listen to the other party. If there is any sort of miscommunication or feelings that are not being understood, it is always easier to talk it out. The second thing is to always try to express your thoughts and feelings instead of advocating or blaming someone else for something you feel. 

2. Understand and respect others opinions. 

Sometimes, the main reason a fight can occur in a home is a difference of opinion. In these situations, it is simply best to agree to disagree. Not every argument needs to end in a unanimous agreement. It's okay to disagree with your family on certain views. Another thing to keep in mind during arguments is to be empathetic. Even if someone is saying something you do not agree with, it is very beneficial to step into their shoes for a second and try to understand where they are coming from. 

3. Set boundaries and privacy.

Many times, the most important part of a family would be boundaries. Whether you're a parent or a child, everyone needs their personal space where they can do things on their own. Sometimes the reason fights happen is also because parents do not give their kids their own space to live and thrive, or sometimes even kids do not let go of their parents until they are very old. Healthy boundaries help family ties last as long as they can.

4. Solve the problem together.

At times, it is really helpful to everyone in a family to sit down and solve problems together. When doing this, ensure that every family member is heard and that no one feels left out in a group discussion. It is necessary to hear out everyone's views and opinions until the whole group reaches a unanimous decision. 

5. Learn from past disputes. 

The final and most important thing is to learn from fights that have happened in the past so no one makes the same mistakes again. Also remember to apologise and forgive, always say sorry if you're in the wrong, and forgive if the other person is showing the same level of maturity as you. 

In conclusion, fights are inevitable in every home. Even though we cannot stop them entirely, is it best to learn how to deal with them and ensure that they don't happen again.

-Saisha Kapoor and Tansee Sugla